Black and White Polka Dot Dress to Funeral
| SweetieBugs Posts: 2,208 Jun 28, 2014 14:15:37 GMT | Post by SweetieBugs on Jun 14, 2019 20:25:30 GMT I have a nice dress that is dark navy with white dots. The dots are around nickle size and spread out about 3 to 4 inches. The funeral will be informal. I'm wondering if this would seem "disrespectful" to you? |
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| gsquaredmom Posts: 3,981 Jun 26, 2014 17:43:22 GMT | Post by gsquaredmom on Jun 14, 2019 20:29:52 GMTTen years ago I would have said not to wear it. Now, I think it depends on who died and who is there. I've seen jeans at some, which I can't bring myself to do. I think you may be asking because your instinct says no to wearing it. |
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| ashley Posts: 3,354 Jun 17, 2016 12:36:53 GMT | Post by ashley on Jun 14, 2019 20:36:32 GMTI think it depends on the style of the dress, tbh. I've worn bright green to a funeral before, as well as pink... not every remembrance needs to be solemn and formal. |
| azredhead Posts: 5,755 Jun 25, 2014 22:49:18 GMT | Post by azredhead on Jun 14, 2019 20:37:04 GMTI think it would be fine too. is it a one piece dress? Or you could accesorize it with a solid color? I have one that's a skirt top combo, but the polka dots are tiny white and the skirt is short. The top is navy. I wouldn't think it would matter. Besides you just being there. So sorry you have to go to a funeral. |
Post by JustCallMeMommy on Jun 14, 2019 20:42:25 GMTI think that would be fine, as long as it is on the darker side. Sometimes, I look at a polka dot pattern and I would say the primary color is white...if you would say the primary color is the navy, it will be fine. Though, as someone else said, depending on the family, anything may be fine. | |
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Post by workingclassdog on Jun 14, 2019 21:25:48 GMTSince it says informal, I would totally wear it. I just went to a funeral wearing jeans and my favorite jersey, per the family request. I waited in the car until I saw others walking into the church with their jerseys on.. I felt so weird. But it was fine. His ashes were in a bowling pin.. | |
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| monklady123 Posts: 13,904 Jun 25, 2014 19:57:30 GMT | Post by monklady123 on Jun 14, 2019 22:23:16 GMTWell... I have worn a bright kelly green sweater to a funeral/memorial.... I've worn a dress filled with wild colored jungle animals....I've worn a Steelers jersey....So, it all depends on who died and the family and the style of the church, etc. |
| dewryce Posts: 12,610 Aug 6, 2015 7:01:33 GMT | Post by dewryce on Jun 14, 2019 22:31:36 GMT Well... I have worn a bright kelly green sweater to a funeral/memorial.... I've worn a dress filled with wild colored jungle animals....I've worn a Steelers jersey....So, it all depends on who died and the family and the style of the church, etc. This is what I was going to say. My biggest consideration is always the family and how my style of dress might make them feel. Also, and this is a silly/weird question. Are your polka dots peppy? I think some patterns, especially those with larger dots, seem cheerful. |
| Last Edit: Jun 14, 2019 22:32:35 GMT by dewryce |
| garcia5050 Posts: 2,480 Jun 25, 2014 23:22:29 GMT | Post by garcia5050 on Jun 14, 2019 22:36:05 GMTI vote wear it. I went to a funeral where I was the only one wearing a dark color. For the next funeral, I wore something bright and again, was the only one. I think presence matters more when it comes to funerals. |
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| smalltowngirlie Posts: 2,491 Jun 28, 2014 11:37:30 GMT | Post by smalltowngirlie on Jun 14, 2019 23:02:25 GMTI know someone who forbid anyone to wear black at her funeral, she specifically requested bright or floral prints. She wanted a true celebration of life and that is what she got. When my sister died we asked people to wear school clothing. All her children played sports and she was at every game, so it fit her. It was great to see so many people honoring that request. The guys that were currently wearing her sons football jerseys let them wear them for the wake. It was very cool to see them show the solidarity of a football team even when all the boys were out of school. |
| KikiPea Posts: 12,137 Jun 25, 2014 21:56:15 GMT | Post by KikiPea on Jun 14, 2019 23:06:33 GMTNo. I have a black and white polka dot dress, and two black and white floral dresses I wear. I don't see yours as disrespectful at all. |
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| AussieMeg How about you, Lash La Rue? Posts: 18,653 Jun 26, 2014 2:27:06 GMT | Post by AussieMeg on Jun 14, 2019 23:16:02 GMT I know someone who forbid anyone to wear black at her funeral, she specifically requested bright or floral prints. She wanted a true celebration of life and that is what she got. I've already told everyone that black will not be allowed at my funeral (whenever that will be). SweetieBugs your dress sounds fine for an informal funeral. Funerals here are almost always informal (except for those who are Greek / Italian / Croatian etc), and I never wear black. |
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| SweetieBugs Posts: 2,208 Jun 28, 2014 14:15:37 GMT | Post by SweetieBugs on Jun 15, 2019 0:09:46 GMT This is the dress. I don't want to look disrespectful but I'm also worried I may be over dressed (it is a small funky beach area in Oregon and family is not very fancy--don't worry, it is my family so I'm just insulting my own). It is my Dad's funeral but we have been estranged for most of 30 years due to his inability to be a father (too many addictions--women, gambling, pot, then harder and harder drugs until he lost his medical license when I was 16). www.kohls.com/product/prd-3673570/womens-chaps-pleated-fit-flare-dress.jsp?color=Dark%20Blue%20Dot&prdPV=11 |
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| gsquaredmom Posts: 3,981 Jun 26, 2014 17:43:22 GMT | Post by gsquaredmom on Jun 15, 2019 0:28:17 GMT I think the sleeveless throws me off. If you paired that with a cardigan, it would be just fine. What I was going to say. The dress is fine, but wear a cardigan or scarf over your shoulders for church and funeral. If lunch after, you don't need it for that. |
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| tentoes Posts: 2,161 Oct 19, 2018 15:54:06 GMT | Post by tentoes on Jun 15, 2019 0:37:57 GMTCute dress. Sorry for your loss. Even though you have been estranged, I'm sure you have feelings. I'd wear what you feel comfortable with. I wore pants to my husband's celebration of life, and it was at our church. I wear jeans to church sometimes--mostly colored pants though. You will look lovely. ((HUGS)) |
| grammanisi Posts: 3,629 Jun 26, 2014 1:37:37 GMT | Post by grammanisi on Jun 15, 2019 0:58:45 GMTI think it would be fine. |
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| SweetieBugs Posts: 2,208 Jun 28, 2014 14:15:37 GMT | Post by SweetieBugs on Jun 15, 2019 1:24:09 GMTThanks everyone. I stopped working last year (really just taking a sabbatical) and have lost 33 pounds in the past 5 months so none of my nice work clothes fit anymore. If they did, I'd have several nice black slacks and blouses to choose from. Now, the only thing I fit in is smaller athletic wear. I'm still waiting on the final 5 to 7 pounds to drop before officially buying a new wardrobe. When I went shopping last week, the thrill of looking good in clothes really hit. I saw this dress and tried it on and it fit like a dream come true. Hopefully I'll have better days to wear it as well. |
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| kelbel827 Posts: 1,225 Jun 27, 2014 2:33:16 GMT | Post by kelbel827 on Jun 15, 2019 1:26:36 GMTDepends who died. I'll be seriously upset if people wear black or dark colors to mine. |
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| hannahruth Posts: 2,277 Aug 29, 2014 18:57:20 GMT | Post by hannahruth on Jun 15, 2019 7:24:32 GMTThe dress is just fine and I would wear something similar to a funeral , especially if it is a hot day. Sorry for your loss even though you have been estranged it is still a loss of any future relationship you may have ended up having. BTDT and being your father it is still sad to no longer have him in your life. |
| cawoman Posts: 1,061 Jul 8, 2014 5:36:09 GMT | Post by cawoman on Jun 15, 2019 7:41:47 GMTSince they specified casual and its on the beach, I think the dress would be nice. I'd wear it with a flip flop type shoe to dress it down a bit. It's really cute! |
| Spongemom Scrappants In my happy place. Posts: 12,481 Jun 25, 2014 19:39:52 GMT | Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jun 15, 2019 10:53:19 GMTSeeing the dress you linked, I think it's fine for the funeral. And I like that you feel so confident and good in it. Little things like that can help hard occasions. I'm sorry for your loss. |
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| mikklynn Posts: 21,315 Site Supporter Jun 26, 2014 17:57:56 GMT | Post by mikklynn on Jun 15, 2019 11:30:18 GMTI think it's fine. And, since it is your father's funeral, where whatever you want. At least you are not wearing golf clothes or bib overall jeans. I've seen both at funerals. I am sorry for your loss. |
| auntkelly Posts: 7,830 Jun 26, 2014 15:37:48 GMT | Post by auntkelly on Jun 15, 2019 17:49:24 GMTI think your dress will be fine. I'm sorry for your loss. |
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| leftturnonly Posts: 10,315 Jun 26, 2014 5:24:15 GMT | Post by leftturnonly on Jun 15, 2019 17:57:26 GMTIf you feel good in it and it looks nice on, than I don't see why it wouldn't be appropriate. My SIL wearing a sweat suit (she was pregnant, not athletic) to my FIL's funeral was disrespectful. (For an example.) |
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| leftturnonly Posts: 10,315 Jun 26, 2014 5:24:15 GMT | Post by leftturnonly on Jun 15, 2019 18:00:20 GMT This is the dress. Very nice. When I went shopping last week, the thrill of looking good in clothes really hit. I saw this dress and tried it on and it fit like a dream come true. Hopefully I'll have better days to wear it as well. |
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| 950nancy Posts: 25,472 Jul 17, 2014 19:33:44 GMT | Post by 950nancy on Jun 15, 2019 23:52:43 GMTI think funerals are evolving. They aren't always the everyone wears black and black hats kind of event from 50+ years ago. The last few I have been to have had a specific dress asked but not required. They were to wear a specific color or a specific team that the deceased requested. People were in jerseys and wearing jeans. I just don't think there is a specific pattern that is outlawed for funerals, so go with what you think is appropriate. Traditions are definitely changing. |
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